I just have to share this photograph.
We had a sudden downpour last night and Isabelle put her wellies on and asked if she could jump in the puddles. She was so excited I couldn’t say no.
She had a whale of a time and was squealing with delight. Most of the water ended up in her wellies and she squelched when she walked, but she had fun. One of life’s soul lifting moments to watch.
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So, the photos for today.
I’ve not been out much this week but I was bored, so I resorted to the good old safety net of flowers. I’ve not really photographed flowers for a while, and I loved the lemony yellow colours in this bunch of flowers.
Today is the 4th anniversary of my dad passing away. I can’t believe it’s 4 years already. The phrase ‘Time Heals’ is true, although when it was said to me 4 years ago I didn’t believe it. I feel sad today, but I’m not in tears. I’m not a blubbering wreck that I have been previously on the anniversary.
I miss my dad so much, I can’t even begin to tell you. He was a lovely man, and I’m not just saying that because I’m his daughter. Everyone thought he was a lovely man. He had his faults of course, just like we all do, but he was well liked and well thought of. He had a heart of gold and would always help other people, sometimes to a fault. He would go out of his way to help.
This is a poem I wrote for Dad for me to read at his funeral. I couldn’t read it, I was in pieces. The vicar read it and to say he’d not seen it before, he did such a good job. I was told afterwards that the entire congregation were in floods of tears, including the ‘tough men’.
Sometimes words are left unsaid,
You know what you mean, but they stay in your head
But there comes a time when you should say
and let all them out, not keep them locked away.
You go through life just doing your thing
whether it’s quietly living, or whether you dance and sing
There are people that matter all the way through life
there for good times, and there for the strife
You are one of those people Dad, though I’ve not often said
you’ve always been there, nice thoughts in my head.
Good times to remember of when I was small
happy smiling memories for when I want to recall
As I grew older you took a step to the side
to let me learn, and to gain my own pride
Life is a journey down a one way track
is it one way, or can we come back?
Where did it start? where does it go?
But someone that matters, has watched me grow
It doesn’t really matter which road you take
With it’s up’s and down’s and choices to make
Maybe they’re right, maybe they’re wrong
But whatever the choice, the road is long
And to have someone there to help guide the way
Is better than waking up to a sunny day.
So this is to say, for all the times I should have said,
spoken the words out, not kept them in my head.
I see myself when I look at you
The way you think, the things you do
You have made me who I am, I’ve taken the best of a lovely man
I’ll miss your smile, your laughing eyes,
but I’ll think of you when I look to the skies.
I love you Dad that much is true
And one day in the future, I hope I’m just like you.
I phoned the hospital Sunday and Monday and all I got was a nurse saying he’d had a comfortable night but there was no change. Standard line I guess. When I phoned on Tuesday morning the nurse said just a minute, and the next thing I knew, my dad was at the other end of the phone. It surprised me so much I burst into tears. I told dad we were coming to see him at the weekend for Fathers Day, but all he would say, the entire phone call was “I’m so tired, I’m just so tired”. He hadn’t lost his marbles, he was still very much aware of everything and he knew he was talking to me, but his last words to me were, “I’m so very very tired, I love you”. I knew I wouldn’t see him again alive. He was telling me he was done, it was his time to go.
The following day at work I got a phone call. You’d better come, your dad isn’t very well at all. Why didn’t they phone me sooner? They knew it would take almost 3 hours to drive to the hospital. We jumped in the car and had only been on the road 15 minutes when my brother phoned and asked where I was and what I was doing. I told him we were in the car heading to the hospital, and that I wasn’t driving. My brother said, I’m sorry, it’s too late. He’s gone. Why didn’t they phone me sooner? I could have been there! They should have phoned me that morning!!
We carried on driving. I can’t even remember the 3 hour journey. It’s a blur. We drove to meet up with my brother but I told him that I have to go to the hospital, I have to see my dad. My brother came too.
Oh god it was so heartbreaking seeing my dad laying there. It was so strange. For the last 10 years I’d only ever seen him with oxygen tubes up his nose, and him in a t-shirt propped into a sitting position. Now, he was laid flat on his back, in pyjamas and no tubes. The strange thing is I noticed that he still had is moustache trimmed. It was something he was always a stickler for.. he had to have his tache trimmed. I’ve never seen my brother cry like he did when we saw dad. my brother was 34 yrs old, almost 6ft tall and a strapping bloke, but he just disolved. We cried, we looked at dad, we held his hand and then said our goodbyes. I don’t know how I managed to walk away, I think I was led out of the ward. I left my dad there, I’d never see him again. My world crashed.
The funeral was a blur, I felt so detached. Because his wife had dealt with the funeral huge chunks of dad’s life were left out. The vicar gave me and my brothers a very brief mention, but my dad’s life story basically started when he met his wife. I was mortified. I’d offered to give a few details to the vicar but his wife said it was all being dealt with. Nothing was mentioned about his previous working life or his previous family life prior to getting together with Jean.
We drove 45 minutes to the crematorium in a huge funeral car. A quick service and then the curtains closed. That was it. All over and done with.
Apparently Dad’s ashes were scattered on the communial rose garden. There was no plaque inscribed with his name, nothing. I was, and still am very upset about this. I didn’t agree with him being cremated, I would rather he was buried. My brother agreed with me. We had to accept that he was being cremated and we could do nothing about it. I felt so lost. I had nowhere to go to mourn my dad. No gravestone, no plaque in his memory. Once we walked out of the crematorium doors, that was it. Nothing. My dad was gone from my world forever.
I must have cried daily for almost a year that first year. I just couldn’t get over the fact that he’d died. I’d never had to deal with a death in the family before, and for the first death to be my dad was awful. I just didn’t know how to deal with it.
So 4 years on, in writing this, I’ve reduced myself to a blubbering wreck. So much for the first line of this post. It still hurts. Dad, I miss you so much. Unfortunately it doesn’t make me feel much better when my other half says, your dad lives on in you. You are SO like your dad it’s frightening. I am a female version of him looks wise, we have the same expressive smiley eyes, we have a very similar outlook on life and our personalities are so similar it’s uncanny.
He’s never appeared to me as a vision or ghost or anything like that (I think I’m probably grateful for that to be honest).
It makes me sad to think that he never knew about Isabelle. She was born 13 months to the date of his death. he would have absolutely worshipped her, I just know he would. He’s always loved kids and was the clown at the party when kids were around. But Isabelle just has that little bit extra that I know would have melted my dad’s heart.
It also makes me sad that he never knew about my photography. He died before I really got into it. He would have appreciated my photographs and what I was doing with it. He was always so proud that I was creative and I know that he would have absorbed himself in my photography too.
Ok, I’ve run dry of words now.
I love you Dad, and I miss you more than I could ever imagine. There just aren’t the words to express how I feel.
Rest well
Where did this week go? I think I blinked and missed it!
It’s been a really busy week but doing nothing in particular. One of those weeks where time just vanishes.
We were busy in the garden over the weekend. It’s beginning to look really nice now. We bought a few more plants. We’ve decided the easiest way to keep on top of the garden, for me in particular with my dodgy shoulder/arm/hand and my back, is to have pots with plants in. They’re so much easier to maintain than plants in the garden and to try and keep on top of the weeding.
It was E’s birthay yesterday. She’s 23!! good grief, I can’t believe my baby girl is 23!! The sad thing about this for me, is that it means I’m 40 next month. I know age is just a number, but 40 years old is a BIG number in my opinion. M keeps teasing me about it because he’s 18 months younger than me. I thought by the age of 40 you were supposed to have life pretty much sorted out.. but alas, we’re still battling along fighting all the crap that’s thrown at us.
I had to go and get M from work yesterday as he couldn’t cycle home. A van driver had pulled out on him on his way to work and clipped him on his pushbike. M caught him up and was really angry with him. M’s feet were still clipped into the pedals on his bike so as he was getting off, he banged his coxyx on the bike seat. He’s in agony with it (well it would be agony, he’s a bloke 
) so I dosed him up with pain killers and he fell asleep on the sofa at 7pm. Short and Shouty fell asleep on the other sofa shortly after that while I was clearing up after dinner. I scooted them both off to bed and spent a very quiet evening on my own 
Anyway, here’s a few photos from the last few days. They’re all garden photos as that’s what we were doing over the weekend.
I looked out of the window last night around 8.30pm and the sky was starting to turn pink. as we live on the west coast of the country, we often get some great pink skies in the evening. This one looked particularly interesting as most of the sky was turning colour. So I jumped in the car with my camera. There aren’t any particularly scenic landscape areas around here, so I headed to the river by the power station. This was the resultant shot. I’m really pleased with this.
I had a bit of a photofest this morning. I feel like I want to photograph anything and everything at the moment LOL.
Short and Shouty sat playing with her weebles and Bob the Builder toys and was very happy doing so. This gave me chance to get the camera out. First up was a spotty fly who seemed quite happy to pose for quite some time. It gave me chance to get in real close with the macro lens and extension tubes. He’s a bit of a hairy critter!
Then I started playing with lemonade again. M laughed when he got home to see the photograph of pencil crayons in lemonade
The daisy shot, I’d been planning for some time in my head. I just never managed to get the daisies as we’ve only got dandelions in our garden. I took S&S to the library and they had daisies outside, so I picked a few to use for my daisy photo.
The last two photos here are a couple of a freaky looking bug I photographed yesterday. Makes me think of the alien. Yikes!
I can’t believe it’s June already!!
On Sunday we went to Oulton Park to watch some bike racing. This killed two birds with one stone really. It gave M his fast bikes fix and it gave me my photographic fix. It was a scorching day though and we got a bit crispy! We did have a good day though, nice to be out, sitting in the sunshine with nowhere in particular to go except watch the bikes.
I ended up with quite a few decent shots. I was really happy about this, because I’ve not photographed motorbikes racing before so I had chance to work on my panning techniques.
Here’s a few shots from the day.
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